{fearless fridays} being a great mom isn't about being perfect

 

 

being a good mom
isn't about perfection.

there's no such thing,
so give yourself a break.

quit holding yourself
to impossible standards.

you are enough.

right now.

as you are.

you are somebody's mother.

somebody's mother.

it doesn't get any bigger than that.


so stop listening to that voice inside
(or from somebody else)
that says you shoulda,
woulda,
coulda...

what moms lack in perfection,
they make up for in love.

 

what if you

weren't so hard on yourself?

what if we weren't so hard on each other?

 

what if we gave ourselves a break
and quit holding ourselves
and one another
to such impossible,
unrealistic standards?

what if we accepted ourselves
for the messy,
imperfect,
women we are?

 

what if we trusted

that loving our children was enough?

 

it's more than enough.
it's everything.

 

what if we celebrated
all the amazing things we've done
instead of feeling bad
about our mistakes?

let's face it --
we will do things
that hurt our children.

not intentionally,
but inevitably.

we will disappoint them.


and it will feel yucky.

along the way,
our children will learn

that we're human.
and being human is complicated.

 

as moms, we have a million choices

and decisions to make.

 

we're bound to get it wrong

some of the time.

 

life's messy,

but love is love.

 

children need love,

and that's what us moms

do best.

 

 

what would you attempt to do

if you knew you could not fail?

 

i'd forget about the things

i could have done differently

and applaud myself

for raising a really great guy.